Is everything really my fault as my ex-mother-in-law says?

I know you are hurt BUT every mother in law is going to blame the daughter in law or son in law over her own child. Thats just how they are. And no it's not ur fault for everything going wrong if her son is abusive and controlling then she should understand that and not want you to get hurt.... Be strong for you and ur daughter. ur brother needs to leave his comments for himself and not choose ur ex over you. At this very moment you should trust ur gut instinct and no one other than ur self. It's a harsh world out there and sometimes when we need someone they are not there so trust in ur self for the sake of ur daughter and everything will be A-OK~~